Are Divorce Rates on The Rise Primarily the Fault of Women?

By Kaniz Fatma, New Age Islam 22 September 2023 The Stubbornness of Women Is One of The Reasons Why Marriages Collapse Main Points 1. Globally, divorce rates are rising, especially in the Muslim world, leading to discussions among parliamentary and social organizations on causes and solutions. 2. Women, as family backbones and teachers, prepare children for a better society. 3. We urge women to regain femininity and tenderness, while Pharaonic husbands should use their manhood wisely and forbearingly, resisting the temptation to act like Pharaohs. ----- Why is divorce becoming a more prevalent trend globally? Everyone is curious about the causes of the rising divorce rate, which is a trend that is particularly significant in the Muslim world. Many of our parliamentary and social organisations are now debating its causes and solutions because it has become such a hot topic. Whatever actions have been made to slow the rising divorce rate thus far have not been entirely successful. Therefore, it is necessary to offer a clear solution so that women who pay attention to it can be spared from the greater difficulties and sorrows that follow divorce. Although divorce is a notion that exists in Islam, it has also been highly denounced because it not only causes the separation of a husband and wife but also worsens the challenges faced by divorced women and jeopardises the futures of their children. In a marriage, both happiness and despair are inescapable environments. Psychologically, a person cannot possibly be happy or unhappy all the time. It is inevitable that humanity will change in attitude and situation. There are many times between a husband and wife when the husband has an opinion and the wife doesn't share it or like it. This is an extremely delicate position. When there is a conflict, it is sometimes important for a man to act patiently, and it is sometimes required for a woman to act gently and patiently. When a woman prioritizes her opinion while exhibiting intensity and stubbornness rather than gentleness, the outcome is highly serious and its harmful ramifications start to manifest. The woman forgets that if she persists in arguing her case and insists on disliking her husband's viewpoint, a hostile environment would be created between the two, which could eventually result in divorce. In addition to their separation, the outcome will be negative for the children's future. Both men and women are in some way accountable for the rising divorce rate, but in this essay, we will focus especially on the accountability of women and their obstinacy. The Stubbornness of Women Is One of The Reasons Why Marriages Collapse If we are talking about women, they are the backbone of the family and the teachers in this life. As a result, if you raise a girl correctly, she will grow into a good wife and mother who will raise a good generation, and what she teaches them will have a significant influence on building a better society. On the other hand, if a woman is untrained, lacks moral and emotional insight into the situation, and is stubborn and does not listen to anyone before her, keep in mind that her stubbornness can be easily ignored at her parents' house, but it can cause trouble for her in her in-laws' home. We have observed a lot of obstinate women who very easily cause the dissolution of marriages and other relationships, including those with their parental family. A woman who lacks patience and fortitude and instead has superiority and stubbornness will cause marriage to fail because she will use push-pull techniques to succeed and will put her selfishness and stubbornness above other family members. The qualities of a lady who is easy-going, kind, loving, devoted, and receptive are extolled in numerous Islamic traditions and Ahadith. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, and the Companions who came after him set a good example for us. They advised women to control their husbands with intelligence, gentleness, and obedience in order to win their affection. When a wise and intelligent woman constructs a permanent home, she exhibits such tenderness and fortitude that the storm of the greatest challenges passes in front of her, the days of trouble are over, and she begins to live in days of prosperity. A stubborn woman, on the other hand, is like a dry stick that breaks and shatters on its own to the point where it can no longer be fixed. I've learned from my educational experiences that stubborn women struggle in their social and personal lives. The Bedouins of the Arabs usually teach their daughters that if they make their husband their lord, he will make them his queen. This implies that if you treat him as your master and turn into a slave for him, he will treat you as his queen and turn into a slave as well. Once it does, she can then use it to gain whatever she wants. These tips have been well-followed by successful wives. Men are kind, welcoming, and very polite, yet obstinate women turn them into adversaries. Families disintegrate as a result, divorce rates rise, and widowhood rates rise in our culture. There are numerous factors that contribute to marital conflicts that result in divorce. The wife's stubbornness and resistance to her husband stand out among these. She tries to be like her husband in everything. sometimes, because of her stubbornness, she starts to degrade him and thinks she is the only one who can have a better opinion. She typically changes into a plaything in households when there has been a major argument and violence between the husband and wife. The woman then exhibits more resistance and puts her selfish attitude on display. The husband then makes an attempt to break his wife's nose in retaliation for her attitude. We need to be mindful that two powerful brains can hurt one another when they collide. Similarly, when two people with strong temperaments argue, one of them will undoubtedly crumble. We urge every wife to regain her femininity, tenderness, and submission to her husband. In a similar fashion, we exhort every Pharaonic husband with a tyrannical nature, a hard temper, and a hard heart to use his manhood wisely and forbearingly, resisting the temptation to act like a Pharaoh just because he is the one paying the maintenance and say "I will only show you what I see". In the next essay, we will look at the rise of the divorce trend, in which males are mainly accountable, in an effort to stop it and create a society that upholds the principles and standards of our religion. ----- Kaniz Fatma is a classic Islamic scholar and a regular columnist for New Age Islam. URL: https://newageislam.com/islamic-q-a/divorce-rates-primarily-fault-women/d/130734 New Age Islam, Islam Online, Islamic Website, African Muslim News, Arab World News, South Asia News, Indian Muslim News, World Muslim News, Women in Islam, Islamic Feminism, Arab Women, Women In Arab, Islamophobia in America, Muslim Women in West, Islam Women and Feminism